Friday, 19 February 2016


Several pieces of the works of the greatest mind doctors in history have been based on self-observations. Names like Freud and Jung are seen associated with notes about themselves. Patricia Garfield studied her own dreams. Because of this, I am not ashamed of suggesting a modified version of Gestalt Therapy: We now would have people in place of our imagination. 

I just wrote something about Hamish and me (the game involving the balloons) and I then realized that we can rebuild ourselves internally, to the rate of 20%, if having humans in place of our imagination and the same people who hurt us in the past. 

I then propose that we have an approach involving both facts and situations, without ever making people go to the abstract side of things, what is then very different from all we have so far, at least considering what I had contact with. We would be after working on each situation/fact at a time. In the case I just mentioned, I carried the trauma of rejection in me and the reaction of the servants in my history. Both, that is, the trauma and the adopted reaction, what obviously make us do that when facing the same sort of situation, that is, when having to deal with some sort of authority we depend on, bring losses that may end up amounting to full slavery in democracy for more than fourteen years, as in my case, so that being able to change the pattern we print in our psyche is of fundamental importance to guarantee our rights on earth, and therefore that we really live our lives and enjoy our gifts to the best that we can. 

Coming back to my particular situation, I had my mother, my only possible source of food, care, and other essential elements, treating me as garbage and me subjecting myself to that apparently on a voluntary basis, as for what she put in my head (you don't come if you cannot do it). 

Hamish was what I thought of her in part: A partner, something like a husband (in her case, without sex). Given my age, it was just appropriate that I did not have sex with my partner. Even though I had Fernando Peres at school, I really connected was to my mother. I obviously spent way more time with her and I obviously depended on her in many more ways than I depended on him, and in essential ways. 

Hamish could then play the replacement much better than an empty chair. I would not be calling him names or saying what annoyed me in that situation, as Gestalt would like us to do, however. I am sure that leads to nowhere. I would be living a similar situation to that where the trauma was inflicted, so that he would be walking with me. The detail would be that he would do precisely what I expected her to have done, as it was, so that we are connecting facts and situations to what we are doing, not anything else. 

The important thing is actually detaching, which is precisely the opposite move to that of Gestalt: We want to trivialize the impact of that person and their actions in our minds and spirits, also in our hearts, since we have recently proven that our hearts have neurons as well, and therefore emotional memory. We want that person to be only good things or only things that do not hurt us, we do not want to kill or injure them, for, first of all, that is what we claim that shouldn't be done. When he did that, the so hurtful memory of being left behind being a kid, of feeling like a thing, a reject, was partially gone. I say partially gone because I still have the injury, it is about 20% mitigated. I actually believe that repeating that with more men who I feel attracted to could recover me totally from that one, what means having no trauma anymore. We then would have to work on the reaction part of the story, since we have to break the cycle (see The Empire). That will come with training, training of military type: repetition, repetition, and repetition. We need to do some acting, perhaps, and rebuild ourselves. What destroys us is both the hurt that is kept inside associated with that person, which, by the way, will destroy them too, since we will attack them in weird ways, and the pattern of reaction that we subconsciously impose to ourselves, which may end up meaning that we lose everything when everyone else, in our situation, would have won everything instead. We need to have no patterns of reaction that originate in traumas, since those would have to be destructive, something like Kamikaze moves. 

I therefore propose that this becomes a therapy: The Factual-Situational Therapy or FST. We work on the fact, which was the situation of walking with someone who had such and such emotional connection to us, and we work on the situation, which was the creation of the reactive pattern. 

There must be closure that be adequate after the remake: We know the individual has progressed to the level of self-healing when they can identify other life situations where the ill pattern has caused their failure. We know they are advancing if they are able to come up with things they could have done to end up with a wanted outcome instead of the repetition of the failure. We know they are almost healed when they have the same configuration in life, as for fact, and they are able to escape the traumatic pattern. They need to report that to us, what means that we must set that as a homework or something, so that they know that is a necessary item. As in education, only the repetition, and, finally, the final exam, so say the third piece of evidence on the healing, can convince us that the evil is gone forever. 




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